We just need to get a little creative with our positions and technique to ensure that the right parts are getting stimulation at the right time (and for the right amount of time). If you and your partner haven’t yet cracked the code to your orgasm together, don’t fear - with experimentation and communication you can absolutely get there.Īnd, of course, orgasm is not the point of sex - but that doesn’t mean we should give up trying to have the best, most mind-blowing sex possible. The bottom line: Most women aren’t having effortless, screaming orgasms every time we hook up and the same old sex positions aren’t really cutting it for closing the orgasm gap. In fact, according to a study published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy in 2017, 37 percent of American women required clitoral stimulation to experience an orgasm, and 18 percent (!) of women said they were able to come on vaginal penetration alone. In reality, only about 57 percent of us are climaxing every time we have sex, and that’s usually when a form of stimulation other than penetration is involved. Don’t believe all the hype from movies, porn and TV - orgasms for folks with vulvas aren’t an easy get through penetration alone, nor or they so elusive and complicated that they aren’t worth trying for.
